Archives for the month of: April, 2017

Yeah, um. I know I aid I would never again visit Trinidad. I know I go on and on about how much I hate it there. I hate the heat, the humidity, the noise, the bugs, the lack of good showers. I know, I know, ok?

When dad got home from his yearly stay it was snowing – in three days we had snow, a snow storm and another snow storm.

So when I went to visit him and say “welcome home dad!” I found him quite sad and a bit depressed, really.

After listening to him moan and complain (dad is an unnatural complainer, usually everything is awesome) I asked him “Why did you come back so early? It’s. It’s still winter here!”

Dad explained (patiently) that he had some appointments to take care of – he walked me through day by day.

And you know what? 

He had two appointments then this four weeks gap.

So I said. “Dad, do your first two appointments and go back to Trinidad then come back for the next round. It’ll end way warmer when you get back.”

Dad said he would think about it.

The next time I saw him, dad casually said “oh, yeah I’m leaving on Tuesday.”

Me: What? Where are you going?

Dad: Trinidad.

Me: What? You just got back!

Dad: Well, I’m going back for three more weeks.

Me: wow. Well. Good for you!

Dad: Hey. You aren’t working, you should come with me.

Me: Me? Oh, well. Sure. Not for three weeks though! Just one.

So that’s exactly what we did.


I admit that the last time I was in Vancouver I was interested in heading over to Vancouver Island and seeing Victoria again – my memories of it are lovely.

I suggested this before I got out there – maybe an overnight trip? I quickly became irritated at the negotiating details, would we over night, would we rent a car, would we go Thursday or Friday?

I suggested texting was not the way to make plans and that we could sort things out when I got there.

My friend wanted to make his game night so suggested Friday, renting a car instead. We went by his workplace to check to see if he could get a rental discount.

Turned out he could! 

And he booked a car for us for Friday.

When he told me, I expressed surprised as I thought we were still considering. And discussing. And I did want to go but.

Look. Sometimes it’s hard being around people who have really different sleep schedules. Last time I was there I stayed elsewhere so I went to bed early and got up early. I stayed totally within my schedule. And my friend stayed within his. I would have breakfast, go for a walk or go see something then we’d meet up and have lunch and dinner together. I’d leave to make my ten pm bedtime and he stayed up.

This time staying at his place meant that I couldn’t roam too far. So I’d often sleep in and then go out for breakfast. It also meant that if we were going anywhere together his idea of an early start and my idea of an early start varied widely.

 Truly by the time the car was rented I had lost my desire to go and Friday didn’t seem to be a good idea – my flight home was Saturday morning and I was pretty tired from the week.

So. We went. 

The ferry ride was pretty cool and I got some ok pics I think. It was a bit rainy and windy and I was very tired – I visited with my author friend the night before and barely slept.

In Victoria we grabbed an excellent fish and chips lunch and then went up to the “castle”. It was pretty cool, there was a lot of stained glass.

After the tour we headed back to the ferry dock, plenty of time to spare.

The ferry was cancelled.

For the rest of the day. No ferries running. 

The first ferry would run the next morning and all the reserved spaces were sold out. So we could come back and wait in line after it was closed.



Actually. Not ok. Not even a bit. Cuz I really want to go home.

We decamped to Starbucks so I could charge my phone, get some tea and we could figure out next steps.

Things are easier to deal with when there is tea.

I can’t. I was very worried.

I tried and failed to switch my ticket to a later flight but everything was booked. Everything in my price range.

Evything I could afford.

I was panicking.


And my back hurt.

And I wanted to sleep in my own bed.

Left Starbucks to find somewhere to stay the night or dinner.

I asked some question about the ferry and, as the answer wasn’t fast enough, checked online. 


Oh crap! One ferry running from Nainamo to West Vancouver.

Which meant.

Which meant!

Not sure.

 I wasn’t sure where I was, let alone where I was in relation to anything else.

We decide to try.

We tore off, following the map and ended up.

At a closed ferry dock!

A tiny closed ferry dock.

The problem with GPS. The problem with not reading directions first.

The drive was. Beautiful, I guess? My energy was mostly devoted to not losing my self-control. Why did he just go ahead and book the car without confirming with me first? Why didn’t he check the weather report? Why didn’t he listen when I said I wasn’t sure if I still wanted to go? Why does he keep touching my knee? Why doesn he put the radio on? Why doesn’t he drive faster? Why does he keep critizing other drivers? 

And why? Why, when we get there and find out there is room on the new ferry does he start asking about a refund for the tickets for the ferry that was cancelled rather than just buying tickets first and asking questions after that is dealt with?

Also. I really had to use the bathroom so that poor timing.



I don’t have control issues but when someone assumes control I want them to take care of the details – like if we are going up the mountain, wear things that are sensible so we can walk around in the snow.

I try so hard to remind in control of my emotions but sometimes I just want to explode. 

I didn’t. But I’m really happy that I got home.

I was ready to come home.

Too much excitement!

So yesterday was my friend’s book launch! 

During the day we made it up to the Nitobe Memorial Garden on the UBC campus and this time we didn’t get lost! Got a pile of really good snaps and walked about and about, just enjoying it. Truly one of my fav places to be.

Then it was lunch – Swiss Chalet! So much fun and so comfortable, love comes in many forms.

We related a bit at “home” then it was time to get ready for the event!

We didn’t get lost going there and the space was beautiful. My friend (you know who you are) saw me at the doorway and came for a hug – thrilled that I would travel from Toronto to Vancouver to help celebrate, she even thanked me in her speech! Said I was one of the most brilliant people she has ever met, I blushed (on the inside).

Listened to excerpts of her book, ate food and drank wine. 

After the structured part we mingled! Reconnected with her partner that I didn’t recognize when I got there and then connected him with my friend – we all game so it was brilliant to be able to do. I left them to delve and plumb and I went over to meet my friend’s newest partner, the last time I was here they just met and I was encouraging my friend to go for it. They did! It was an excellent conversation and I’m so happy that I took that walk over.

I’m so proud and happy I could burst.

After the event I was still wide awake so my friend and I went to this totally nerd pub! It was amazing. They have this game that you roll and 20-sided die and get a random shot. My friend decided to play and got “Essence of Gelfling”. Of course this was inspiring so I asked if I could roll, not for a shot but just to hear another name – our waitress agreed, I rolled and – Snow Crash! I said it’s one of my fav books so I’d take the shot, please.

Closed the bar, like a couple of idiot friends who couldn’t stop talking and drinking beer. It was wonderful. 

Today. Today, who knows. Both stayed up too late and tonig my friend is gaming so I’m to visit my author friend. I’m ready.

Got over to the Classical Chinese Garden yesterday and jumped in on a tour.

It’s as beautiful as I recall and so happy to see they are doing some restoration work.

The tour informative and fun – at one point I was waiting to get a photo of a flower that had dropped on the ground. I waited until after the guide stopped speaking and made my move – too slow! Someone picked up the flower to smell it! What ever happened to not disrupting things we find in gardens that aren’t garbage?

It’s funny, being three hours behind most of my friends, woke at 530am and already had some messages waiting – people up and about before it’s even a thought for me.

Didn’t really get back to sleep but breathed deeply and relaxed until around 730am. Makes for a very Bex by nighttime but I love being up and about.

It’s funny though, negotiating schedules with someone (you know who you are) who runs almost opposite.  Like, I’m ready to sleep when he is still going strong and I’m ready to go whe to go when he is still sleeping. 

It’s good, I find it affords both of us needed alone time.

So, breakfast in Starbucks again and getting caught up with everyone back home. And telling them about all the beer my friend and I are drinking. 

Yesterday we walked and walked and ate and drank, what an excellent day!

Today – more of the same!

Sitting in a Starbucks, sipping my green tea and water, just finished my banana and breakfast sandwich. I’m in Vancouver!

And being stereotypical.

Except, it’s not coffee.

My dear friend, who is hosting me (you know who who you are) is slumbering on his couch. Tried to be quiet as I left this morning but somet noises happen – too many bits and warnings for bears to be properly stealthy.

I love the rain.

Funny story – when I’m Vancouver, it rarely rains. Arrived yesterday, the rain and by the time we settled in for lunch, the sun was bright and stayed that way the whole of our lunch and beers. 

It kept that way all during our first of many epic walks.

There was evidence of rain – puddles, general sense of clean and damp – after we got out of our movie. 

Today the sun is doing its thing like it invented being bright and cheery.

Or something.

A dear friend is having a book launch even this week, she got published! (She knows who she is.)


Turned out my budget was going well and my vacation time was too, so I booked everything!

Then. Plot twist!

I got let go from my job two weeks ago. I really enjoyed working there but I understand the need for cost savings and efficiencies and I didn’t work with core business. I hope they meet their goal of savings. I believe in it.

So. New adventures for me, including a new place to hang out and make a contribution. Very exciting!

Also, I recently had a very interesting performance opportunity playing ukulele and singing. It was for International Women’s Day! It was excellent and I met some awesome women! And a few us have started climbing together. It’s really amazing and I’m so thankful.

It’s interestin, all these wonderful things happening all the time.

Today it may be adventures in aimless wandering and we have a beautiful day for it.